I’d be a pretty poor hermit if I couldn’t find better things to think about than the ‘mattress girl’ saga. However my cave does have Internet access and so I was aware that allegations of ‘rape culture’ currently thrive among college students who’d rather make up causes for protest than actually study for their degrees. It had vaguely come to my attention that there was one particular case in which, to protest a lack of interest in her probably-false rape accusations against another student, some chick had taken to carrying a mattress around – presumably especially when there were cameras about. I did not seek details.
So far, so good. College kids have been really publicly doing dumb things for a very long time, no doubt to the horror of their parents, and I believe it’s a wonderful thing that it’s none of my business.
But I beg indulgence, at this time, to wish with all the fervency in my fatherly heart that Mattress Girl’s parents would stage some sort of psychological intervention. Right F’ing Now.
Trigger Warning: Do not click on the following link. Really, just don’t. I have never, before this morning, blessed those TUAK commenters who counseled me to install NoScript. It meant I didn’t have to see even a screencap of the (allegedly very bad) porn video at this sad, misbegotten site.
I didn’t go there looking for the video, against which I had already been warned, but for this prologue:
Here are a few questions to help you reflect.
Searching:
Are you searching for proof? Proof of what?
Are you searching for ways to either hurt or help me?
What are you looking for?
Desiring:
Do you desire pleasure?
Do you desire revulsion? Is this to counteract your unconscious enjoyment?
What do you want from this experience?
Me:
How well do you think you know me? Have we ever met?
Do you think I’m the perfect victim or the world’s worst victim?
Do you refuse to see me as either a human being or a victim? If so, why? Is it to deny me agency and thus further victimize me? If so, what do you think of the fact that you owe your ability to do so to me, since I’m the one who took a risk and made myself vulnerable in the first place?
Do you hate me? If so, how does it feel to hate me?
Hey, I’m a single guy. I’ve got nothing against porn videos. I am not here to rant against porn videos – even bad ones, for most of them are bad or at least boring. I never before saw one that required me to take a quiz first – with essay questions, yet. This chick spent way too much time in school. I actually hope for her sake – but rather doubt – that someday she will mature to a point where she can relive her week of fame with horrified remorse.
The ‘Mattress Girl’ thing was widely reported on, but still fell under the heading of ‘things college kids do.’ I doubt one in ten people would have recognized her name. I wouldn’t have.
That apparently wasn’t good enough for this lady, so she upped the ante and is now reaping a big-time fifteen minutes. She has succeeded in her stated aim: We have all had our consciousness – of her – raised.
I hope she enjoys the result.
I clicked on the link and read the copy but didn’t watch the video. I knew about the self-dramatizing Ms Sulkowitz, but good lord. She certainly does have an exalted opinion of herself, doesn’t she?
I, too, hope she grows both some common sense and some humility. But I rather suspect she’s going to enjoy a long life of making everyone around her miserable with her self-righteousness and attention-seeking.
Is Internet.
Allows any dingbat to seek huge audience for his/her/its issue du jour.
Issue not necessarily valid, but oh, well . . .
🙁
I am pleased to report I have no idea of which you speak. Trying my best to be an urban hermit…
so is THIS is why we use the phrase attention whore?
Does seem to bring the expression to new depths of literalness, doesn’t it?
I clicked, but fortunately I was also saved from a screen shot. I read the copy, but quickly realized that I was not her target audience. When she asked ‘Why are you here?’ my internal response was, ‘To see what self indulgent idiocy you’ve concocted,’ and I knew right away that I had no need to watch the video. I wouldn’t enjoy it, nor gain any deeper understanding from it, and I therefore had no need or impulse to watch it. I am a big big fan of consensual sexual conduct, and a big big fan of rapists getting the ol’ .45 deterrent, and I suspect that means I am not in her target demographic, one way or t’other. I am happy to say that I will continue to file this young woman’s shenanigans under ‘Not My Problem’.
Not Stupid, Here. Anybody says “here’s a link, don’t click on it!” … I figure it’s either spurious or disgusting.
I mostly regret the things I failed to do during my life, more than the things I did. For example when I was 17 there was this girl who .. well, never mind. Doesn’t matter.
This time, I will keep my regret in Category 1, just to shift the balance.
Psychological intervention? Both her parents are psychiatrists, which is why she’s so crazy to begin with.
VM, very likely indeed. What I remember most about the psych class in college is that the entire department was the biggest collection of loonies I had ever seen . . . and that has remained true to this day.
And as of this response, I still have no clue who she is or what she did on that video. My kindle is not……mercifully I gather, not compatible with any of the visual media on that site. Also, news of “mattress girl” seems to have yet to reach me here in my tropical scene. I can only guess from what I see here what is up her snout.
I gather that also is a mercy as I filled my quota of tooth gritting two weeks ago around things that matter……like hurricanes and dogs attacking the chickens…….neighbors trying to steal property.
For now I have better amusements, the terrier mix we keep is having a heyday killing rats today.
That’s far more amusing and useful that angry attention greedy gender studies majors with a rape fantasy.